Why Bars Are the Worst Place to Meet a Potential Partner, According to Dating Experts

If you’re looking to meet a meaningful partner, hopping from bar to bar might not be the best strategy. Dating coaches like Blaine Anderson, founder of Dating by Blaine, argue that bars and clubs are “bad places to meet people” because there’s often no deeper connection beyond simply being in the same location.

Drinking culture, particularly in places like the U.S., is common, but being in a bar doesn’t reveal much about a person’s values or interests, says Grace Lee, founder of A Good First Date. Lisa Marie Bobby, a relationship psychologist, adds that bar-based interactions often result in shallow conversations that fail to translate into long-term compatibility outside of that setting.

Instead of relying on bars, experts suggest pursuing activities that align with your values and passions. Joining hobby-based groups or attending events centered around shared interests will likely lead to more authentic connections. As Anderson puts it, “Dating, in general, is a numbers game,” and meeting people through meaningful, shared experiences gives you a higher chance of success.

Surveys support this approach. According to a study by The Knot, 62% of couples met through mutual friends, underscoring the power of connecting within your social circle.

Ultimately, while dating apps and bars might seem convenient, experts suggest cultivating a lifestyle that reflects who you are and allows you to meet people in more meaningful environments.